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Smithtown's First Couple Making History
Monday, July 25, 2011 at 2:02PM By Pat Biancaniello
Couple John Garand, Rene Meyer with Susan Sillaro issuing Smithtown’s first marriage license to same sex couple 
John Garand and Rene Meyer have waited a very long time for this moment. Together since 1980 and unofficially married in 1981, the couple watched as other states and countries embraced the concept of marriage for same sex partners. They knew they would get married some day but didn’t expect it to be in New York.
Rene, born in Switzerland, is a naturalized citizen who grew up in Hauppauge. John is originally from New Hampshire. They met in 1980 and committed to each other in 1981. They each wear inscribed gold bands honoring that commitment made thirty years ago. Tomorrow, a little more than 24-hours after receiving their license, in a ceremony at Carlyle On The Green along with 99 other couples, they will officially become married partners and spouses.
To say they are happy and excited would be an understatement. Both John and Rene have been active in the movement to allow same sex couples to marry. They remember a time in the not so distant past when landlords in Manhattan wouldn’t rent an apartment to a gay couple. Leases were not offered jointly and everything had to be in one name. It was a very different world than the world we live in today.
The couple purchased their current home in Hauppauge seven years ago from Rene’s parents. Their neighbor’s have been very accepting of them and have been supportive in their quest to marry. Both John and Rene’s family have embraced the relationship and commitment the men have made to each other. Although John said “ it took a little time for my parents to jump on board. We celebrated with them in New Hampshire a few weeks ago, but at 88 and 91 years of age it is not possible for them to be here for the wedding. The card they gave us stated, “Although we cannot be there for the wedding we will be there in spirit.”
Rene lost his mom a short time ago. His father’s response was excitement and happiness. His first words were “it is a shame that your mom isn’t here for this.”
Originally planning to elope, they were disappointed that marriages were not performed at Smithtown’s Town Hall. It was at the GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual and Transgender) Center in Bay Shore that they were invited to the special ceremony at Carlyle On The Green. The center’s director, David Kilmnick, will act as their witness. They are looking forward to the wedding and are excited about the wedding cake, which they have read about in Newsday. Even though they will not have family with them, the day will be special and they will have happy people sharing the wonderful experience surrounding them.
Both John and Rene have opted to keep their last names. The couple will be honeymooning in Switzerland where they will celebrate their marriage with Rene’s family. Rene’s elderly aunt, when learning of the impending marriage after a thirty-year relationship said, “It’s about time.”
Reader Comments (2)
Pat, this is beautifully written. Thanks so much. It was such a pleasure meeting you.
René and John
This is great news! Best of wishes from your friends in Sweden.
Per & Tommy